(that can be used in everyday life)
I remember the first time I messaged a friend before a first date saying "I think this is the first guy who's out of my league. I'm a little intimidated."
As women we're taught to believe that men have their shit together, that they have it all figured out, and that we're the emotional messes who are struggling through life.
What that relationship, and the ones that followed, taught me is that we're all human. We ALL have insecurities and doubts, we can all get in our own heads, we all have past shit we're trying to deal with, and (for the most part) we're all doing the best we can. Realizing that took so much of the typical nervousness out of dating for me. It leveled the playing field. And it allowed me to take people of the pedestals I had put them on.
Three years of online (and sometimes meeting IRL) dating has taught me a lot about myself, what I want, what I don't want, and what I tend to ignore. (Hello, red flags! Remember, we're all a work in progress! lol)
Here are some common themes I've found over the years that also translate into the non-dating world!
You know I'm all about using shifts in perspective to change your habits and views, so I hope this helps!
What are some common themes you've come across while dating? And what are some of your patterns you're noticing? Drop them in the comments below!
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