w/out losing your shit.
Breakups suck. It doesn't matter if you're the one doing the breaking up or you're the one getting dumped. It isn't easy for anyone. And it's super easy to get caught in a downward spiral after one. So I wanted to share some of my best tips on how to survive a breakup to make it suck a little less and have you come out a sparkly new person on the other side!
After my divorce, I really reconnected with who I was. My relationships with my girlfriends became closer. I didn't realize this when I was married, but as much as I love being with someone, falling asleep next to them, and having that connection, I also really crave my alone time and down time. I love the excitement of city life and living downtown. My environment and home really affect my mood and my creativity, both positively and negatively, depending on my surroundings. I love my freedom and being able to pick up and travel on a moment's notice. I like being independent and not having to answer to anyone.
After a recent breakup I realized I had started to let these slip away. I lost focus on my goals and my wants and needs and got swept up falling in love. It took this break and this time away for me to really sit back down and get realigned with my own priorities again.
So how do you survive a breakup without losing your shit?
Before you do anything, this is super important.... find your most evolved bitches.
This is where you get to really take the time to figure out who YOU are and not only what you want out of life, but how you want to FEEL. You don't need to do everything listed below, but doing as many as you can will definitely help you to start feeling better!
Instead of focusing on what you're losing in your relationship, this is when you really want to focus on what POSITIVE aspects you're going to add to your life (and this could be different for everyone!) This is the time to really focus on yourself, both mentally and physically. And remember, you can only control the controllable. Take it one day at a time and shower yourself with as much love as possible.
Hang in there, gorgeous!