Lately I've found myself learning to navigate a new phase in my life.... being 38, single and w/no kids.... when all your friends are married w/toddlers.
I've been divorced for about 2 years now. When I first got divorced, I knew everything was going to be new and weird and awkward for me until I learned what my new normal was. I didn't start dating right away, and I really focused on myself and filling my time with things I loved and that made me happy. I focused on my fitness, I hosted "Wine Wednesdays" at my house for my girlfriends, and planned as many sushi dates with them I could to fill my time. I also really learned to enjoy my quiet nights at home on the couch.
New relationships are great... you can't wait to see the person, you love the time you spend together, you haven't figured out what makes them flawed yet... they can also be a total learning experience. You're learning all about a new person... what they need, how they communicate (or don't), what their insecurities are... you learn about yourself.... what you need, how you communicate (or don't), your own insecurities and triggers, things you're willing to put up with and things you're not.... your ex may be a pain, they may have their own ex that you now have to deal with. Lots of fun factors get thrown in there. So to say I had a shit day yesterday is an understatement, but I'm using my shit day as an opportunity to reflect, brainstorm, and hopefully help anyone who needs to read this right now.
People who write down their goals earn 9x as much over their lifetimes as the people who don’t, and yet 80% of Americans say they don’t have goals. 16% have goals but don’t write them down. Less than 4% write them down. Less than 1% review their goals. Guess which 1%?
And it's not just about income... I've been writing down 10 big, scary yearly goals for the past 3 years and it's crazy what I've accomplished!
I know I mentioned this in yesterday's post, but I am LOVING this book Mastering Your Mean Girl, the no-BS guide to becoming wildly wealthy wealthy, fabulously healthy & bursting with love, by Melissa Ambrosini! I'm only 5 chapters in and there's so much great info already.
In her book, Melissa talks about finding out which areas of your life you're living out of fear and which areas you're living out of love so you can make the necessary adjustments. Below is her quiz, but I'm warning you, it can be very eye opening!
I'm two weeks post op from my hysterectomy, and although I'm feeling great, I know I need to listen to my Dr. and take it easy, so that means no workouts for another 4 weeks.
I. Cannot. Sit still.
So while I'm going stir crazy, I'm taking this time to catch up on some personal development.
Right now I'm listening to the audio of Mastering Your Mean Girl, the no-BS guide to becoming wildly wealthy wealthy, fabulously healthy & bursting with love, by Melissa Ambrosini and I'm loving it! It was recommended by another #BabeSquad member and I'm so glad she shared it.
Your girlfriends' guide to everything that makes you a babe! Here you'll find tips on how to live your life to the fullest and live a sexy, confident, kick ass life... with some glitter and F bombs sprinkled in! Get ready to Be Happy!!!