Lately I've found myself learning to navigate a new phase in my life.... being 38, single and w/no kids.... when all your friends are married w/toddlers.
I've been divorced for about 2 years now. When I first got divorced, I knew everything was going to be new and weird and awkward for me until I learned what my new normal was. I didn't start dating right away, and I really focused on myself and filling my time with things I loved and that made me happy. I focused on my fitness, I hosted "Wine Wednesdays" at my house for my girlfriends, and planned as many sushi dates with them I could to fill my time. I also really learned to enjoy my quiet nights at home on the couch.
Happy first day of summer! And it's also a full moon! I love full moons, way back when I was a bartender and a dog groomer I could ALWAYS tell when full moons were coming. They make everything so crazy! If you know anything about me, you know I LIVE for the summer. I love the sun, the heat, the water, beaches, being outside, everything!
So here's my list of 35 things every babe NEEDS to do this summer!
Makeup! I love everything makeup. I love how creative you can be, I love how it makes me feel, Everything! Before I was a health & business coach, I was a licensed esthetician (think anything skin care) and a nail tech and got to play with beauty products for a living. I get asked a lot what kind of skin care and makeup I use, so I decided to get it all in one place! Be sure to read all the way to the bottom because I also asked a few of my babes what their favorites are, too!
New relationships are great... you can't wait to see the person, you love the time you spend together, you haven't figured out what makes them flawed yet... they can also be a total learning experience. You're learning all about a new person... what they need, how they communicate (or don't), what their insecurities are... you learn about yourself.... what you need, how you communicate (or don't), your own insecurities and triggers, things you're willing to put up with and things you're not.... your ex may be a pain, they may have their own ex that you now have to deal with. Lots of fun factors get thrown in there. So to say I had a shit day yesterday is an understatement, but I'm using my shit day as an opportunity to reflect, brainstorm, and hopefully help anyone who needs to read this right now.
People who write down their goals earn 9x as much over their lifetimes as the people who don’t, and yet 80% of Americans say they don’t have goals. 16% have goals but don’t write them down. Less than 4% write them down. Less than 1% review their goals. Guess which 1%?
And it's not just about income... I've been writing down 10 big, scary yearly goals for the past 3 years and it's crazy what I've accomplished!
I know I mentioned this in yesterday's post, but I am LOVING this book Mastering Your Mean Girl, the no-BS guide to becoming wildly wealthy wealthy, fabulously healthy & bursting with love, by Melissa Ambrosini! I'm only 5 chapters in and there's so much great info already.
In her book, Melissa talks about finding out which areas of your life you're living out of fear and which areas you're living out of love so you can make the necessary adjustments. Below is her quiz, but I'm warning you, it can be very eye opening!
I'm two weeks post op from my hysterectomy, and although I'm feeling great, I know I need to listen to my Dr. and take it easy, so that means no workouts for another 4 weeks.
I. Cannot. Sit still.
So while I'm going stir crazy, I'm taking this time to catch up on some personal development.
Right now I'm listening to the audio of Mastering Your Mean Girl, the no-BS guide to becoming wildly wealthy wealthy, fabulously healthy & bursting with love, by Melissa Ambrosini and I'm loving it! It was recommended by another #BabeSquad member and I'm so glad she shared it.
129.... I don't know where that # came from, but it's a # I chased for the majority of my 20's and even a little bit into my 30's. At 5'6", that was my goal weight. I'm not sure where I got the # or why I put so much value on it. It was a # that no one but myself would ever see. A # that was supposed to make me happy and change everything once I reached it.
Here's what that # didn't tell me about myself...
Living in Buffalo, NY, I try to get out of the snow and cold and head somewhere warm as much as I can. Thankfully I have a career that sends me to some pretty amazing places (San Diego, Las Vegas, Nashville, Caribbean cruises, Cancun...) and it's also flexible enough that I can add in my own trips as well. Because of all this travel, I'd like to think I've become pretty good at packing. (Please don't ever ask me for unpacking tips. lol) So here's a list of everything I can't live without in my carryon!
For the past couple years I've been big into writing down my goals and creating vision boards. It's crazy how powerful getting your ideas down on paper (or computer screen!) can be! Lately I've gone through so many big, scary, amazing and crazy life changes that I've really been doing a lot of reflecting and wondered why I haven't been doing this for all aspects of my life? So the other day while spending the morning on a beach in Barbados I got to brainstorming. My question to myself was... what do I believe in? I wanted this to be fun and flirty, nothing too serious... and I had the most fun every putting this together! So, in no particular order, here's my list!
Your girlfriends' guide to everything that makes you a babe! Here you'll find tips on how to live your life to the fullest and live a sexy, confident, kick ass life... with some glitter and F bombs sprinkled in! Get ready to Be Happy!!!