Unfortunately, I could make a list of the asshole comments I've seen people post on other people's transformation pics...
Let's face it, people can be real fucking assholes when they want to be.... usually when they're unhappy with themselves, directing their bullshit onto you, and comfortably hiding behind their computer screen.
Transformations are personal. They're scary to post. You have to be vulnerable. You've put in a lot of blood, sweat and tears to get where you are now. You've made sacrifices. Seeing yourself in your before pic can stir up old, unhappy memories and feelings. A lot of hard work and emotion went into getting that result pic.
As hurtful as those comments posted above can be.... I've found that the WORST thing you can say when someone shares their before and after pics is....
You looked great before.
There was nothing wrong with you before.
Yes. I know that. And thank you, but you're missing the entire point of me posting my results pics.
Here's the thing... people typically say, "You looked great before." for two reasons:
Regardless of what your intent is, when you tell someone they looked fine before, what you're doing is negating or downplaying all of their hard work. You're not acknowledging the effort they put into their transformation.
It took balls to post their pic and instead of feeling positive about the changes they've made, they walk away feeling let down and disappointed. Womp womp.
So what should you say?
I'm not saying that every time someone posts a transformation pic that you have to go over the top with compliments and stroke their ego. But if you're going to comment with anything, think of the feels that person is feeling and respond to those. Be sure to let them know you understand the hard work that it not only took to create those results, but also to openly share them with others. Then and only then, once you've acknowledged their feelings and their hard work, can you mention anything about how great you thought they looked before, if you still feel the need to do so.
I really hope this helps and you gained some clarity from it. Be sure to share it with anyone who needs it!
And PS.... Do not ever feel bad for deleting and blocking asshats who think it's appropriate to post intentionally hurtful or negative comments on your posts. You DO NOT need those people in your life. Your facebook wall, your rules. Set some boundaries and help spread positivity!
Peace, Love, Glitter & F Bombs,
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