One of the worst things you can say when someone shares their transformation pics

Unfortunately, I could make a list of the asshole comments I've seen people post on other people's transformation pics...
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• "A skinned rabbit has more meat than you." - said by a male complete stranger on one of my results posts
• "Your face looks old and saggy now." - said by a female complete stranger on of my ab posts
• "You look like a man with those muscles." - said on a friend's amazing P90X transformation 
• "Who are you trying to impress?" 
• "fake bitch.... photoshopped.... same day" - said by an old high school "friend" of the poster (who had also just asked her to be a nude model for him.....) 
• "I don't see much of a difference." 
• "It's just the lighting is different."
• "You're sucking in your stomach in one pic and pushing it out in the other." - said by a  fb "friend" about my Country Heat results 

​Let's face it, people can be real fucking assholes when they want to be.... usually when they're unhappy with themselves, directing their bullshit onto you, and comfortably hiding behind their computer screen. 

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Transformations are personal. They're scary to post. You have to be vulnerable. You've put in a lot of blood, sweat and tears to get where you are now. You've made sacrifices. Seeing yourself in your before pic can stir up old, unhappy memories and feelings. A lot of hard work and emotion went into getting that result pic. 

As hurtful as those comments posted above can be.... I've found that the WORST thing you can say when someone shares their before and after pics is....

​You looked great before.

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There was nothing wrong with you before.
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Yes. I know that. And thank you, but you're missing the entire point of me posting my results pics. 

Here's the thing... people typically say, "You looked great before." for two reasons: 

1. They genuinely care and don't fall under the asshole category. They're trying to make you feel better about your before picture by saying it wasn't that bad. 
2. They DO fall under the asshole category and are giving you a backhanded compliment. I used to have an old friend that would do this and I called it "The Mark one-two punch". Every compliment Mark gave came with an asshole comment that would completely negate anything else that was said.

Regardless of what your intent is, when you tell someone they looked fine before, what you're doing is negating or downplaying all of their hard work. You're not acknowledging the effort they put into their transformation. 

It took balls to post their pic and instead of feeling positive about the changes they've made, they walk away feeling let down and disappointed. Womp womp. 

So what should you say? 

I'm not saying that every time someone posts a transformation pic that you have to go over the top with compliments and stroke their ego. But if you're going to comment with anything, think of the feels that person is feeling and respond to those. Be sure to let them know you understand the hard work that it not only took to create those results, but also to openly share them with others. Then and only then, once you've acknowledged their feelings and their hard work, can you mention anything about how great you thought they looked before, if you still feel the need to do so. 

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I really hope this helps and you gained some clarity from it. Be sure to share it with anyone who needs it! 

And PS.... Do not ever feel bad for deleting and blocking asshats who think it's appropriate to post intentionally hurtful or negative comments on your posts. You DO NOT need those people in your life. Your facebook wall, your rules. Set some boundaries and help spread positivity! 

Xoxo
Peace, Love, Glitter & F Bombs,